but you can control your attitude about it.
one of the ideas Gretchen Rubin (the author will from now on be refered to as GR) discusses early in the book is to act the way you want to feel. this was fasinating to me. i can clearly remember trying to explain to b on several occasions that i was just in a bad mood and there was nothing i could do about it. or so i thought…
b is (almost) always right.
GR quotes William James as saying “Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.”
so with everything that is happening in my world i find myself constantly updating people about the situation. and while i so greatly appriciate that people care, it was getting tiring. i didn’t want anyone’s sympathy. i didn’t really even want to talk about it. it is what it is and no amount of emotion was going to change it.
however, i realized that a lot of the way i acted and delivered the information made people feel bad for me. so by thinking a little about my tone and word choice, i think i am having an easier time talking with people about the situation and what will happen from here. and i am happier because of it.
by making a conscious decision i was able to alter my mood.
i have been doing my best to act the way i want to feel and so far it feels pretty good.